We live in a world, where loyalty is underrated, and every sense of loyalty is eroded. This is most remarkable and can be clearly seen when it comes to situations for instance in the Church, Politics, normal social scenes and what have you. We are all too familiar with cases where usually the wiser, more influential pundit in a particular field, ‘mentors’ help the upcoming but obviously talented novice, and schools and teaches that fellow the ropes, rules and rudiments of that very field.
Fast forward a few years, the same set piece almost every time. The novice is not a novice anymore, no longer upcoming, but successful, influential in every right. You just have to wait a while longer and rumours and sparks start to fly. The once mentor and former protégé are now in the middle of a controversy. Battle of words, wits, pay, and most importantly, of loyalty. Then there’s separation and a bitter vendetta that follows in the public eye, that leaves either party yearning for approval.
The boss most likely could have undermined, cheated, exploited the ‘student’ or the student, could have been ungrateful, unbecoming or just literally carried away by successes to now bite the fingers that once fed him. All these allegations go on and on in the public eye.
Loyalty is very much underrated and overrated these days because, mentors are turning into domineering and overbearing overlords,
and protégés are turning into disrespectful, ungrateful and indifferent wretches.
This is my case full stop. But what I’d like to offer an advice concerning this. I’ll take y’all to the Bible. Timothy 3: 1-3
3 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3
I hope you know that we’re definitely in the last days, and people will be ungrateful. It’s just the truth. You’ll help people in this life, and they’ll eventually snub, backstab, lie, cheat on, and even reject you, despite your sacrifice. If someone is ungrateful, then somebody probably did something for them, that requires gratitude. That’s just life. People will be what they are. But that’s not all. That’s not where it ends. There’s a solution, and we can get that from the Bible also (yes I’m a church boy lol)
There was once a story in the Bible where Jesus healed ten lepers. Only one came back to thank Him. Jesus asked about the other nine. Yes he expected them to come back, but they didn’t. Only one did. You see, the thing messing us up, is that we keep looking back for the nine and yes they’re meant to be seen given our sacrifice, but what do we do when they never show again, ever? Anytime God uses us to be a blessing to people, we keep looking back expecting much from people; the other nine. Truth is that, they’ll never come back. But apart from the fact that God promises to richly reward you for ever sacrifice, good, investment, even your time you have put into a life, you see there’s a twist to this. If you don’t give up and you keep being a blessing, there will always be that one, maybe more than one that will come along. They’ll appreciate your sacrifice, and this is not something that is forced or contrived, but coming from a grateful heart, that realises your worth and what God is using you to do. Things the majority, the other nine may have been too blind to perceive. But these people that build genuine relationships with us, make the journey easier and more worth it. Paul in the Bible had a couple of ‘ones’ Timothy, Titus, quite a couple of them.
Let go of those other nine, that will never come back, move on, you don’t have to start any form of drama; some people still appreciate you. Some people still think you’re great.
Someone said that, for the fact that somebody doesn’t recognise your worth doesn’t make you worth less. So the message is chill! and also be grateful to those that God has sincerely and honestly used to help you in anyway or form in life. You don’t have to always call them, text them or what have you, we can’t always have this predilection for everybody but whenever you have the opportunity, let them know that they were instrumental to where God has placed you now, or at least be nice to them, respectful and grateful and stop acting there like you got there on your own.
by Uche Emordi @Emordiphilip on twitter
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